I want to selfhost a messaging service for my family. It should be secure and have voice calling option, ideally. Thank you.

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Matrix works, but it’s way harder and more expensive to selfhost than for example XMPP, which can be hosted even on cheapest VPS or first RPi. I would definitely take the cost and “how hard is it to maintain in the long run” into consideration.

Mattermost also works and is pretty easy to selfhost, but it doesn’t have federation.

Another option is always an email with delta.chat - I don’t think it offers voice calling, but email is one of the most basic services one can host, and many automated solutions to help with that exist.

The problem of XMPP is not hosting it, it’s the clients. Give me one easy-to-use guide to have

  • e2ee text messaging
  • groups
  • audio/video calling

working equally well on desktop, Android and iOS, and I will gladly drop my matrix server.

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