I understand the desire to create some levity in the face of such sour news, but I do worry about how people who suffered abuse may see this content and what feelings it might inspire in them. I’m not asking you to take this comment down or chastising you for making it, but I do hope that it might influence how you frame things in the future. A content warning, softening the humor, or combining the humor with an acknowledgement of the real world harm that can happen might help.
I was abused in church but never in school (outside of racial epithets). Sometimes it’s easy to forget that not everybody develops a gallows humor as a coping mechanism. Thinking back to those times while in a depressive stage is a recipe for disaster.
But you are absolutely correct. Some things should only be joked about when in a group of trusted people. And I accept your advice in the spirit in which it was meant. To foster a more accepting and safer community for everybody and not as a way of getting a cheap joke.
I’d much rather be gently corrected than to be part of the background noise that might be making people feel uncomfortable.
I was beaten at school in the 80s and I know I can’t speak for everyone who suffered from abuse but for a lot of us, in my experience a plurality if not an outright majority of us, the jokes are the only way we can take any power back. If we cry, they win.
Thank you for endeavoring to create a safe space for us, though. Doubly so for doing it through dialog rather than force. Beehaw is a pretty special place because, so far at least, we can assume everyone is trying to be decent and willing to talk about and modify behavior to that end where appropriate. I’m grateful to y’all every time I pop on here.
Oh absolutely, I’m a big fan of reclaimed language (use it on myself) and humor as a coping mechanism, but it can be hard to understand from a few short words online where it’s coming from! Just trying to subtly remind people to make it as explicitly clear as possible so everyone feels welcomed 💜
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I understand the desire to create some levity in the face of such sour news, but I do worry about how people who suffered abuse may see this content and what feelings it might inspire in them. I’m not asking you to take this comment down or chastising you for making it, but I do hope that it might influence how you frame things in the future. A content warning, softening the humor, or combining the humor with an acknowledgement of the real world harm that can happen might help.
Totally agree with you.
I was abused in church but never in school (outside of racial epithets). Sometimes it’s easy to forget that not everybody develops a gallows humor as a coping mechanism. Thinking back to those times while in a depressive stage is a recipe for disaster.
But you are absolutely correct. Some things should only be joked about when in a group of trusted people. And I accept your advice in the spirit in which it was meant. To foster a more accepting and safer community for everybody and not as a way of getting a cheap joke.
I’d much rather be gently corrected than to be part of the background noise that might be making people feel uncomfortable.
Genuinely, thank you.
I still have the scars on my knuckles from being hit by my principal with the cane across my hands.
I’m not naive enough to think this doesn’t still go on or worse all over the world, but I though America was better than this.
I was beaten at school in the 80s and I know I can’t speak for everyone who suffered from abuse but for a lot of us, in my experience a plurality if not an outright majority of us, the jokes are the only way we can take any power back. If we cry, they win.
Thank you for endeavoring to create a safe space for us, though. Doubly so for doing it through dialog rather than force. Beehaw is a pretty special place because, so far at least, we can assume everyone is trying to be decent and willing to talk about and modify behavior to that end where appropriate. I’m grateful to y’all every time I pop on here.
Oh absolutely, I’m a big fan of reclaimed language (use it on myself) and humor as a coping mechanism, but it can be hard to understand from a few short words online where it’s coming from! Just trying to subtly remind people to make it as explicitly clear as possible so everyone feels welcomed 💜