I do recall the thread linked and I think a few individuals whose sole purpose on the Gnome GitLab was insulting the Gnome maintainers were banned. Sometimes Gnome’s obsession with polish can be a double edged sword. I don’t think anyone on the Gnome team let’s merge requests die on purpose its just a lack of communication from them. Wish Gnome would take some risks with the DE with new features in the future.
I get where you’re coming from, really. I’ve been disappointed by Linux for years with the learning curve and random errors that no one can help with. I’d take a long break from anything server related and then once you think your ready to come back, go watch some videos that give you inspiration like Techno Tim. Try to make a game plan and stick to it. Use standard stuff like Debian and Proxmox for software and to get a head start try this. Wish you all the best mate.
I have never seen this pop up with UBO