Given that the Fediverse is wide open, unencrypted, and your instance owner is no more immune to getting a subpoena from law enforcement than anyone else … one might think twice about asking questions of the form “if I commit a crime can they find me” here. Even if your VPS can’t detect it, you just left a paper trail here by asking how to commit a crime. :) Bad plan.
Your Fediverse instance owner might consider deleting your post and perhaps your account to keep them from being the subject of such a subpoena in the future.
And can instead move to a platform that is controlled by a rando instance owner with their own set of quirks and foibles. And can choose amongst thousands of such instances, each controlled by a different rando with a different set of quirks and foibles. Out of the frying pan and into the fire indeed.
Good.