Narcissist is a slur when it’s used in a derogatory sense by someone who does not have the disability. You can say “person with NPD”, or pwNPD for short, or you can avoid insulting someone by alleging mental disability in the first place.
Narcissism is generally seen as a negative trait so there already isn’t a non-derogatory way of calling someone a narcissist. Also, there is an acknowledged difference between being a narcissist and having NPD so as much as many here would probably say Empress has some kind of disorder, I bet very few have the credentials to diagnose which means it’s the former, and if we’re being completely honest, it’s a very practical word to describe a person’s behaviour. So I guess it has to be a “chill out, snowflake” moment for you.
All disabilities are seen as negative, but it’s not derogatory to call someone autistic, paraplegic, or blind, unless it’s a deliberate insult. I find your argument unconvincing.
I don’t really care if you find what I say convincing but to make this as simple as possible, name one time it’s considered good to be identified as narcissistic. And please let’s stay relevant and leave out physical disabilities. Only assholes insult the two you named.
pwNPD are, on average, better at magick than neurotypicals. I also generally respect most pwNPD for the trauma they’ve endured and survived. It’s a disability that leads to a lot of suicidality, so being a living pwNPD is an accomplishment.
I also think money is magic, because it’s brought into existence by people’s belief in it. In my book, magic is believing in something so hard it becomes real. Money obviously fits the bill. Do you not think money is magic? What do you think it is if it’s not magic?
Another place where this view falls short is that a person doesn’t need to have NPD to act like a narcissist on a regular basis, the same way a person can be volatile and not meet the criteria for BPD.
No, that’s not true. It’s not true because that’s not how we use disability language. Neurotypicals do not act autistic, and they don’t act ret**ded. Some people do use words that way, because those words are slurs. Likewise, when you insult someone by likening their behaviour to disability by calling them a narcissist, that’s a slur.
I don’t try to make people fight. I want them all to agree with me and not be bigots. Do you think I like being harassed? No, of course not. Your worldview where people like being yelled at is very strange.
You picked a fight with the moderate who believes the word is used by ignorants who are unaware of the history, instead of the person whose views are actually opposite your own who thinks it’s only a pathology. It seems to me that both of you want to bully the narcissist out of hate more than a political disagreement, since you have no quarrel with the person who more strongly disagrees with you. Neither of you cares about the content of the arguments you’re making, you just want any excuse to continue using slurs, even if two of the excuses you agree with are mutually exclusive opposites.
You said you think it’s funny that I’m disabled, after all.
I like how laughing at my disability, being called out, trying to justify it, and then ignoring me makes you the bigger person.
I HAVE NPD.
I know you are not intending to be ableist when you call Empress the N word, but you are insulting a disabled person for their disability when you do it to me. And you think that makes you better than me.
Eh, it depends on the intention behind the word. Narcissistic personality disorder is, by definition, a disability (as are all mental disorders). In practice, it isn’t treated as such because they’re just assholes. Therapy is the only treatment, and the likelihood of a narcissist actually seeking treatment is basically 0.
Most people throw the term around loosely, much like “psychopath.” I’m mainly being pedantic and do agree that it is often the best word to use to describe people who exhibit narcissistic symptoms. Selfish and egotistical can be an understatement for even neurotypical people.
I’m just really interested in psychology and have a compulsion to talk about it to internet strangers who never asked and probably don’t care.
I sought treatment, and most of the pwNPD I know have sought treatment. The primary barriers to actually getting treatment are cost, and lack of trained psychologists. Insurance doesn’t cover personality disorders and therapists don’t know how to help us, other than giving generalised PTSD and cPTSD treatment such as schema therapy.
Narcissist is a real psychological term. It describes a pathology. Slurs aren’t words you don’t like to be called. You don’t get to make up what is and what isn’t a slur.
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Narcissist is a slur when it’s used in a derogatory sense by someone who does not have the disability. You can say “person with NPD”, or pwNPD for short, or you can avoid insulting someone by alleging mental disability in the first place.
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Narcissism is generally seen as a negative trait so there already isn’t a non-derogatory way of calling someone a narcissist. Also, there is an acknowledged difference between being a narcissist and having NPD so as much as many here would probably say Empress has some kind of disorder, I bet very few have the credentials to diagnose which means it’s the former, and if we’re being completely honest, it’s a very practical word to describe a person’s behaviour. So I guess it has to be a “chill out, snowflake” moment for you.
All disabilities are seen as negative, but it’s not derogatory to call someone autistic, paraplegic, or blind, unless it’s a deliberate insult. I find your argument unconvincing.
I don’t really care if you find what I say convincing but to make this as simple as possible, name one time it’s considered good to be identified as narcissistic. And please let’s stay relevant and leave out physical disabilities. Only assholes insult the two you named.
pwNPD are, on average, better at magick than neurotypicals. I also generally respect most pwNPD for the trauma they’ve endured and survived. It’s a disability that leads to a lot of suicidality, so being a living pwNPD is an accomplishment.
Do you even read what you type? If you genuinely believe narcissists are magic then you are truly deluded.
I also think money is magic, because it’s brought into existence by people’s belief in it. In my book, magic is believing in something so hard it becomes real. Money obviously fits the bill. Do you not think money is magic? What do you think it is if it’s not magic?
Another place where this view falls short is that a person doesn’t need to have NPD to act like a narcissist on a regular basis, the same way a person can be volatile and not meet the criteria for BPD.
No, that’s not true. It’s not true because that’s not how we use disability language. Neurotypicals do not act autistic, and they don’t act ret**ded. Some people do use words that way, because those words are slurs. Likewise, when you insult someone by likening their behaviour to disability by calling them a narcissist, that’s a slur.
TIL Being an asshole is a disability
pwNPD are not assholes at any higher rate than the general population. What you’re describing is a stereotype about a disability.
Ah, so you can be a ‘nice’ narcissist? Go away.
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Argue with this person who disagrees with you.
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I don’t try to make people fight. I want them all to agree with me and not be bigots. Do you think I like being harassed? No, of course not. Your worldview where people like being yelled at is very strange.
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You picked a fight with the moderate who believes the word is used by ignorants who are unaware of the history, instead of the person whose views are actually opposite your own who thinks it’s only a pathology. It seems to me that both of you want to bully the narcissist out of hate more than a political disagreement, since you have no quarrel with the person who more strongly disagrees with you. Neither of you cares about the content of the arguments you’re making, you just want any excuse to continue using slurs, even if two of the excuses you agree with are mutually exclusive opposites.
You said you think it’s funny that I’m disabled, after all.
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I like how laughing at my disability, being called out, trying to justify it, and then ignoring me makes you the bigger person.
I HAVE NPD.
I know you are not intending to be ableist when you call Empress the N word, but you are insulting a disabled person for their disability when you do it to me. And you think that makes you better than me.
Eh, it depends on the intention behind the word. Narcissistic personality disorder is, by definition, a disability (as are all mental disorders). In practice, it isn’t treated as such because they’re just assholes. Therapy is the only treatment, and the likelihood of a narcissist actually seeking treatment is basically 0.
Most people throw the term around loosely, much like “psychopath.” I’m mainly being pedantic and do agree that it is often the best word to use to describe people who exhibit narcissistic symptoms. Selfish and egotistical can be an understatement for even neurotypical people.
I’m just really interested in psychology and have a compulsion to talk about it to internet strangers who never asked and probably don’t care.
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I sought treatment, and most of the pwNPD I know have sought treatment. The primary barriers to actually getting treatment are cost, and lack of trained psychologists. Insurance doesn’t cover personality disorders and therapists don’t know how to help us, other than giving generalised PTSD and cPTSD treatment such as schema therapy.
Narcissist is a real psychological term. It describes a pathology. Slurs aren’t words you don’t like to be called. You don’t get to make up what is and what isn’t a slur.
Using pathologies as insults is using a slur.