Interesting problem here. So I self host jellyfin, happy to share my (owned) movies with my family. Well, my mother has asked me to digitize her collection too and have me host it. Originally, fine, you give your movies to me, I host them, same thing.
However, what I didn’t bet on was the amount of garbage, terrible movies she would give me. There’s a few that are fine, but the vast majority are, well I’ll just put it bluntly, christian propaganda. I don’t think any of them are as terrible as some of the worst case, but think “My life was horrible until I found god now look and see how fulfilled I am” type propaganda - and they make for horrible plots. Left Behind with Kirk Cameron is a good example. Even removing the blatent boring christian plots - it’s just a horribly made movie. Cheap, not thought out well, and honestly I read the book decades ago, it’s a horrible adaptation too.
Not that I keep only top tier movies in my libraries, but these are, well they just bring a pit to my stomach.
What would you do in my situation? (And I’m going to go ahead and say the pure atheist comments aren’t needed, yes of course I could burn them, or dance around them, but I’m not looking to just burn the bridge between my mother and myself over a lifetime of her indoctrination and bad taste in movies). I’m more looking for generic, how do you handle your users asking you to put content you don’t find appealing on your server?
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I have to agree with this. It’s your mom. If she isn’t hurting you, or asking you to watch them, and you have the space and bandwidth, just do it.
I’d just host them in a library only visible to mom and members that would want to view it.
Also consider the unintentionally comedic value of such films, they’re sometimes fun to watch just because of how bad they are.
Watch them. Start a podcast.
Chaotic good, right there.
Use your words. Tell her you don’t want to and why.
I personally believe that preserving a false and misleading picture of reality designed to trumpet a deranged cult that is working to make the world objectively worse for everyone including themselves is not acceptable.
I would say, “Look mum I love you more than anything in the world but preserving some of these movies crosses an ethical line for me.”
Of course I grew up in a house of atheist jewish academics, so making and justifying personal ethical stances that contravene wider group stances is expected behavior in my family. And we take document preservation fairly seriously.
Well, just don’t host them, what she gonna do? Tell the police ?
I don’t know if you can do this with Jellyfin but this is what I could do with Plex:
In the end no one else sees Mom’s special, while your mom sees everything and Mom’s special.
You can do this with Jellyfin, exactly like your instructions.
Perfect. That checks one more requirement on my migration checklist. 🥹
I migrated from Plex to Jellyfin maybe a year and a half ago and haven’t looked back. Great user experience and works so well out of the box IMO. Good Android app, too. Works with Chromecast, too (though I’ve been trying to ditch Chromecast in favor of just a laptop connected to the TV via HDMI).
I started digitizing old home movies that were on VHS and created a “Home Movies” library for my family; none of us had watched them in ages since none of us have a VCR anymore, lol. Great mother’s/father’s day gift for one’s parent if you’ve got the time and equipment. It’s nice having the whole family able to easily stream our home movies.
I would be sincere:
Movies take too many space in SSD and too many resources to host, therefore I’m not going to host movies I disagree with. And if she really want this movies to be digitalized, I would give her a choice to buy new hardware (probably SSD) to be dedicated to her.
Whenever people ask me to put up right wing propaganda type shit I just say I can’t find it
This was gonna be my suggestion as well.
I also go in and prune the library every so often to get rid of my sister in law’s trashy reality TV shows.
I bet you’d get upset if someone pruned your trashy videogsme collection.
Is it really so hard just to let people enjoy what they enjoy without being a dick about it?
Some people just love to dictate to others, think they know best.
What I’ve learned over the years is how wrong I can be in my own ignorance, and adversarialism about my ignorance has never convinced me of anything.
Hard/humbling lessons.
Separate library for her movies, only her user can access, done.
This here OP! ☝️
Jellyfin lets you do this easily.
I loooove bad movies. Not religious-bad, more mystery science theater bad.
I rip everything and plunk it into it’s own library just for me.
If you have the space and time, go ahead and limit access to her. She’s already seen them or will anyway. You hosting a file for one individual isn’t going to tip the grand scale of anything.
If you have a moral issue against it, don’t host the content. You’ve already made up your mind, it’s just taking you a while to realize it.
Blunt answer, but an honest one, appreciate it
“No.”
User requests come through ombi and I’ll reject whichever ones I feel like. No explanations, I just don’t.
I disagree with my mah and old man a lot. But, when I was having hard times as a kid, giving them headaches and heartaches, and when I struggled as an adult they were there to tell me they loved me, hug me, feed me regardless of what I believed. They have always loved me unconditionally.
If it ain’t illegal. I’ll host it for them, no questions asked. If I ever needed anything, those are two people I know will be there every time, without fail. It’s the least I can do to try and pay them back, even if I know I never could.
Just explain your reason why you don’t allowed it or give her your recommendation movie that similary with her movies
Just put them in a separate library and only share it with people that ask for it.
For my wife, I have a separate library folder, mapped to just her account in Plex. It doesn’t appear in my library at all, so I don’t really care. Even better, I’ve spun up an Overseerr instance for her, so she can just search and auto-add anything she wants for herself.